School visits should have happened last spring, except there was a mixup with her paperwork, and these bureaucratic mistakes can take forever to rectify. So here I sit, stifling my mounting rage with what I hope is a poker face. But the laws also exist for kids like mine with invisible disabilities, including very bright students whose learning disabilities create huge disparities between their math and their verbal skills.
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The world of public education seems to have more acronyms than NASA. The idea is that with a little help organizing his schoolwork or a few minutes more to finish a test, the child will be able to succeed in the same environment as his peers, the same way a hard-of-hearing student might simply need a hearing aid.
The other law, IDEA, gives students with more significant disabilities the right to specialized instruction, as outlined under the IEP. That could mean anything from a pull-out class period devoted to individual tutoring, a designated classroom aide for the whole school day, or assignment to a school dedicated to special education students.
Some teachers recognize their differences but lack the training or the time to alter their teaching methods; others just assume that a child who is smart in one area is simply being lazy or obstructionist by not being smart in another. The emotional toll exacted on a child who is told that his repeated failures are his own fault can be high. Maybe she was suicidally depressed. She was Up until then, many may have been able to fake success, but the demands of more classes, more homework, and a more challenging social environment can overwhelm them.
In practice, there is. If things have not been going well, parents may bring lawyers to the meeting, which means attorneys for the school system are, too. In my own defense, my daughter had the misfortune of being at an elementary school noted for having the highest standardized test scores in the county and an institutional culture that seems to regard kids with learning disabilities as impediments to their goal of keeping those scores high.
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You could say the school and I had differing agendas. By middle school, when one teacher can have more than students a day, he or she could have 15 or 20 IEPs to read. IEPs are like legal documents in that you have to extract relevant bits of information from here and there, and put them together. Even the best-intentioned and most heroic general-education teachers are hard pressed to implement even some of the basic provisions—a printout of class notes, for example lesson plans can change at the last minute , or individualized instruction in a class with 30 students.
If my sons had any other neurological difference, people would try their best to work around them, to be aware, to be helpful and kind and accommodating. Instead, my son was punished. ADHD kids need to be outside, anyway, somewhere they can twirl, leap, and run, somewhere they can bounce.
Somewhere they can blurt. Things have improved somewhat;from historical times In grade eight i received the strap for talking in class.
I never did learn to be silent when a response was called for but social rules require every one to be silent. In fact not so long ago I was invited to retire from the golf group I belong to because i always answer a query unfortunately just as another player may be hitting the ball off the tee. Usually it is to answer a question that us grown up men know will prompt a response from me. Or it may be because i have seen a deer crossing our fairway. The reason doesnt matter. It makes hitting a golf ball accurately doublay hard. Many golfers dont mind the chatter but it was my day to golf with someone who does.
As an educator and also an adult with ADHD, this whole topic is something I have really struggle with and been interested in.
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Also managing chaos is super hard when you have kids in a room, 5 with ADHD, 2 on the autism spectrum, and then anything and everything else you can think of. Not only that, but very little learning actually occurs at times because the chaos is over the top. Punishing students with ADHD adds to the shame spiral that can continue with them their whole life! I think she is just highlighting that there could be a different approach to handling the situation.
As a parent of a child with a pretty severe case of ADHD I would lose it if I found out my child was being sat in the hallway for five minutes every time he did something that he had no control of, something that could easily be taught and enforced in the classroom. He went back to the problem in question, looked at my solution and saw that yes, I had worked through it and solved it. So yes, it is frustrating on all accounts. We just always need to remind ourselves that fair is everyone getting what they need to stuffed, even if it means changing our ways.
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